Friends vs Girlfriend: Relationship

One of the most challenging aspects of being in a relationship is figuring out how to balance your friends and girlfriend. Hard to balance and if you can’t handle the situation for there might lot of consequences, right? If you ignore your girlfriend one too many times, you'll be single before you know it, but your friends won't remain friends with you for very long if you constantly flake out on them.

Eventually, learning how to balance your friends and girlfriend is about time management and respect. The people who care about you deserve your time… the key is sorting out how to divide that time fairly between the important people in your life.

Tips:

Source: Askmen.com

Plan time with each
Your friends have always just called you up when they're in the mood to go out. Meanwhile, your girlfriend has started assuming that you'll be spending every weekend together. The problem is that both parties assume that you can just drop everything and hang out with them. In an effort to balance your friends and girlfriend, a little planning goes a long way… scheduling will you help you make the most of your time.

Respect sacred occasions
As you try to balance your friends and girlfriend, it's essential to acknowledge that some events are sacred -- some things you absolutely cannot ditch out on. For example, you pretty well have to spend New Year's with your girlfriend, even if your buddies are planning a kick-ass road trip to New York City while all she wants to do is attend a party at her BFF's. Similarly, you can't -- under any circumstances --- let your girlfriend talk you into blowing off sacred guy time, like your fantasy football draft or your annual camping trip. Recognize that some things are sacred and you'll be more likely to balance your friends and girlfriend.

Turn her into a wing-woman
One way to balance your friends and your girlfriend is to plan outings with both parties. For example, try taking your girlfriend with you when you go out to the club with the guys. Turning her into a wingwoman can be a great opportunity for friend-girlfriend bonding. Your girlfriend can actually be an asset for your friends in the pickup game. Single girls will feel more comfortable talking to your male friends if there's a woman in your group. Also, the sight of your friends talking comfortably with your cute girlfriend is sure to trigger a single girl's competitive nature.

Your girlfriend will enjoy these outings too because women can't resist playing matchmaker. She'll also be happy to lend a hand to your boys because, generally, girlfriends want your male friends to find girlfriends. When your friends start pairing up with girls, they're less threatening to her as you can start doing things like double-dates (instead of having them steal you away to prowl for women). Turning her into a wingwoman is a win-win situation.

Points System: Make a Woman Happy

Here's the truth: "Do something she likes and you get points. Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted. You don't get any points for doing something she expects." -Source: across.co.nz

Simple Obligations
You'll get points if:

• you make the bed

Points are subtracted when:

• You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets
• You leave the toilet seat up

Social Engagements
Points are subtracted when:

• You stay for a while, then chat with a college drinking buddy

Her Birthday
You'll get points if:

• You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar

Points are subtracted when:

• You just take her out to dinner
• It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted the colors of your favorite team

Communication
You'll get points if:

• When she wants to talk, you listen, for over 30 minutes
• You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV

Points are subtracted when:
She realizes this is because you've fallen asleep


Be careful guys! Remember that your rule is to make the woman happy!

Marriage Vows| Wedding Vows

Soon to be married? Got problems of wedding vows, what to say to really make your wedding romantic, meaningful and unique? Actually, there are typically three different ways to exchange one’s vows. First, “Question and Answer” Vow. This is very traditional where the priest, judge, minister, etc. to ask question from the groom and the bride to which the responds is “I Do”.

Form:
[The priest, judge, minister, etc.]: "Do you, (husband’s Name/ wife’s Name), take (wife’s Name/ husband’s Name), to be your (wife/husband)?" (Groom/Bride Response) "I
do."
Second, “Responsive” Vows. This is also quite traditional as you always hear this in a wedding ceremony. The wedding officiant will say a certain sentences then each of the couple will say this:
"I, (Name), Take you, (Name), To be my (wife/husband); To have and to hold, From this day forward, For better, for worse, For richer, for poorer, In sickness and in health, To love and to cherish, 'Till death do us part." And it could be, "I, (Name), Take you, (Name), To be none other than yourself. I promise to stand by your side; To encourage you, and be open and honest with you; To laugh with you, and cry with you; To always love and honor you; Both freed and bound by our love, For as long as we both shall live."
Third, is what we called “Custom” Vow. It’s somehow a verbal love letter from each other. A groom/bride will express his/her feelings for the other, along with the promises to do or even not to do. Most of the couples write them our and just read them to the other during the ceremony.

Example:
Groom:
There was darkness for a long time and then there was light, and that light was you. Your love has given me wings, and our journey begins today. I pledge before this assembled company to be your husband from this day forward. Let us make of our two lives one life. I want you for today, tomorrow, and forever.
Bride:
I have dreamed my whole life of having someone as wonderful as you love me the way you do. I give myself to you as your wife, and I promise here to treasure for all of my days the love we celebrate today. Let us bring together our lives and find us a new each day.
Source: elegant vows

Other Example:
I, ____________, take you, ____________, as my friend and love, beside me and apart from me, in laughter and in tears, in conflict and tranquility, asking that you be no other than yourself, loving what I know of you, trusting what I do not know yet, in all the ways that life may find us.

The Groom places the Bride’s ring on her finger and says:____________, I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of God.
Source: elegant vows

Hope these will help a lot to those who plan to get married! Congratulations in advance and Best Wishes!

50 Marraige Pointers

Heads up for these guys!
Marriage only gives greedy lawyers a chance to rob you. Agree or Disagree? Well, that’s a warning to all couples or let say to those who plan to jump into unplanned marriage. Some say, “Don’t get married”! Why? Statistics shows that over 50% of marriages end in divorce these days. If you get married you run a better than even chance that this could happen to you. Yes, marriage isn’t what you think it is. But it depends… still, there are 50% of marriages are together and unbroken.

Many marriages fail today because the people involved do not know how to show love for one another since they were brought up in a loveless relationship. Follow the following 50 Marriage Pointers to avoid misunderstanding and problems:

1. Start each day with a kiss
2. Wear your wedding ring at all times
3. Date once a week
4. Accept differences
5. Be polite
6. Be gentle
7. Give gifts
8. Smile Often
9. Touch
10. Talk about dreams
11. Choose a song that can be “your song”
12. Give back ribs
13. Laugh together
14. Send a card for no reason
15. Do what your spouse wants before being asked
16. Listen
17. Encourage
18. Do it the other’s way
19. Know your mates needs
20. Fix his (or her) favorite breakfast
21. Compliment your partner twice a day
22. Call just to say “ I Love You”
23. Slow down
24. Hold Hands
25. Cuddle
26. Ask your spouse’s opinion
27. Show respect
28. Welcome each other’s home
29. Look for the best for your mate
30. Wink at each other
31. Celebrate birthdays in a big way
32. Apologize
33. Forgive
34. Set up a romantic get away
35. Ask “what can I do to make you happier?”
36. Be positive
37. Be kind
38. Be vulnerable
39. Respond quickly to your mate’s request
40. Talk about your love
41. Reminisce about your favorite time together
42. Treat his (her) relatives & friends with courtesy
43. Send flowers every Valentines Day And Anniversary
44. Admit when you are wrong
45. Be sensitive to your mate’s sexual desire
46. Pray for him (her) daily
47. Watch sunsets together
48. Say “I Love You” frequently
49. End each day with a hug
50. Seek outside help when you need it.

Following those pointers rewards you a happy marriage. Just keep in mind also that in marriage or in a relationship, private matters (i.e. sexual relationships and finances) should be kept private. Keep you separate personalities. Respect each other’s belief system. Remember that no two people think the exact same way. Make a decision about your future together and stick to it. Loyalty and honesty with each other is also has a big points in marriage. Above all, put GOD at the center of your married life.

***Many marriages fail today because the people involved do not know how to show love for one another since they were brought up in a loveless relationship.***

**Because of the power the government gives lawyers and judges the ability to steal your stuff, and the power to make your mates life miserable should you choose to do so, being married is like living with a loaded gun sitting on the kitchen table. And once someone picks that gun up and points it at the other person, your marriage is over and your life is ruined. Because of the court system, marriage is bad for your relationship.**